A Deeper Spring Cleaning

Remembering the Mother's Day surprises we have had over the years, I don't want to jump prematurely here, but I think we may actually be in to springtime here in southern Utah. And it is a renewing time for us. Right now there are spring clean up efforts going on in Iron and Washington counties allowing area residents the opportunity to de-clutter their lives, and remove some of the un-wanted and maybe even what could be considered junky items out of their lives. Maybe even more than New Years Day, this seems like a good time to make new beginnings.

But while we are gathering things to take out to the curbs or recycle bins or the landfills, may I suggest it might also be a good time to turn inward and see if it isn't time for some spring cleaning of the soul. I think that type of inventory and seeing what can be disposed of will have more value to you than getting rid of that couch you don't use any more.

Every so often I'll see something like this as a post on social media

I'm going through my friends list and I want to see who really is connected with me, so if you want to stay connected with me reply with a message. If not, I will be going through and will be (blocking, unfriending, de-listing – whatever the particular platform does) those who don't respond.

Now, to be honest I think a lot of those posts are bot-generated copy and pasted situations designed to get people to click and respond. But even if that's the case, is it not appropriate to occasionally take the time to examine the people and things we invest our time with.

Wait, did I say people? Yes, I did, and I'll get to that in a minute.

But let me start with something a little easier to tackle, at least to me. How much time do you spend on social media, and at the risk of putting a target on my back with more traditional media. As I have written about before, I think it is extremely worthwhile to a break from both social and traditional media. But what if coming back you find yourself sinking in to the same despair or anger or general funk you were going through before your break. Is it time for a more permanent separation? Maybe.

The relationship between individuals and the media and social media can be complex and multifaceted, and it may be characterized by a range of emotions, such as trust, admiration, skepticism, and even fear or anger. In some cases, individuals may feel that they are in an abusive relationship with the media, especially if they perceive that the media is manipulating or controlling them, spreading false or biased information, or infringing on their privacy or dignity.

If you're relationship with media is in the trust or admiration category it's probably ok to stay connected, but is it's more skepticism, fear or anger, maybe it's time to step away, and for more than just a break. It is also worth noting that media literacy and critical thinking skills can help individuals navigate the media landscape and evaluate the credibility and reliability of information they receive. By developing these skills, individuals can empower themselves to make informed decisions and engage with the media in a way that aligns with their values and goals.

But what about human relations and dealing with people. How many people who make that post on social media really end up hitting the “un-friend” button? It's hard, even if it is just hitting a button on a computer. It's nearly impossible in a face to face situation. But there are times in life when it could be necessary. Even if the other person is family.

This article from The Pragmatic Parent starts with these sobering words:

If you do an honest assessment of your family relationships and one or two people keep showing up because of the terrible way they make you feel, it might be time to evaluate these toxic people and if this toxic relationship in your life is keeping you from finding happiness.

In my life, I have had people end relationships with me and I have ended relationships with others.

It's hard. It's painful and can lead to several days, or longer, of heartache and tears. We get so comfortable in these relationships that we just can't let go, even if they are detrimental to us. But terminating a toxic relationship is a courageous and empowering step towards a healthier and happier life.

It's seems to me that this time of spring cleaning is the perfect time to take that step towards a happier and more healthy life.